This post was pretty difficult to write about so excuse the scrambled thoughts that probably don’t flow right.
I was a pretty lonely child, but I took this solitude to online. I was only allowed on it on weekends, but that was enough time to spend talking to “random strangers”. These “random strangers” became my friends – a few of them are still my friends today! This was the only way I knew how to make friends, and helped me develop myself – who I was, what my interests and hobbies were, because no matter what happened in everyday life, there’s always some kind of social acceptance somewhere in the world wide web.
They call people like me Generation Y; a group of people who originally did not grow up with the internet but developed this as part of their later childhood and adolescence.
I probably spent a number of years feeling very much alone, but I brushed it off, until I barely felt anything. Everyday I felt numb, no feeling, no enjoyment, no motivation, and found it really difficult to get out of bed. I would be in bed til it physically hurt, and then stay in bed some more.
But it was probably 15 years later I realised then I had depression, and now, it’s not so bad. Instead (?), I suffer from anxiety – actually, I didn’t find this out ’til probably a couple of days or weeks ago, to be honest. It had never occurred to me as the only kind I knew was social anxiety which I believed I 100% didn’t have. But the depression still affects me – that one I realised a couple of months ago.
My symptoms have worsen lately, though I’m unsure whether it is because I have diagnosed it or whether it’s just taken its toll.
A week ago I saw a GP about this (though was partially convinced that a lack of hormonal contraceptives had made it worse – not that I wanted any; they came with far more worse side effects when I was on them). It was my first time of telling anyone that wasn’t a really good friend, or my sister, or my other half. Why? There’s a few reasons. My biggest reason was that I was afraid of getting medically diagnosed. And that they wouldn’t believe me. The second was that I don’t suffer with it as much as some other people do so it doesn’t matter.
The first reason I stated stems from when I was a teenager; I opened one of my mum’s letters (we did this a lot because she can’t read) and it said she was diagnosed with depression. This was back when I guess I didn’t know what it was at all and didn’t know people got this. I didn’t know what to do or what to say. I put it back where it was and never spoke of it again. Still haven’t. I didn’t want to get such a letter in my life.
So anyway, the GP recommended a few things, including this IAPT (Improving Access to Psychological Therapies) programme, ran by the NHS in a lot of local communities, to provide group and 1 to 1 therapy sessions, which is probably the most effective form of treatment. I registered myself and was waiting a while (a week feels like a while!) to get a phone call to then tell me a telephone screening interview will take place. So I got my screening interview call tomorrow.
Everyone I’ve told (not many people, I must confess…) has said I’ve gotten through the worst bit by going to my GP. It was oddly not that bad really. But I feel like this screening interview is going to be the worst bit as sometimes I do feel numb as hell, and what if I don’t state just how awful I feel at times? And again, I still think, I don’t suffer as badly as some. But it’s getting so bad that I just need this, I need the help. I don’t want any meds, I just need this. I get afraid they just won’t believe me and that will be the end of my journey.
Also, to a lot of people that asked how I am recently – I’m sorry I lied to you. I didn’t want to be that much of a burden when all you wanted was to talk casually! But hopefully I’ll get better soon.